So we set the date of 10/12/2002, again, just six weeks after we had met online.
We decided that we wanted an outdoor wedding, so the search for the perfect spot began....
We really wanted to goto Columbia MO to a winery that was on the cliff's of the Mighty MO...(Misouri River), but being it was October and the folidage was just gorgeous that time of year, it was impossible to get a date. So we started looking at local parks and ended up chosing Weston Bend State Park up in Weston, MO.
We had found the perfect spot, then we talked about finding someone to marry us, what to wear, who we wanted there, who to stand with us, who to take pictures, etc...
I have some very good friends (Carl & Margo) and he just happened to be an Assembly of God Pastor in a small church in Everton, MO. Carl agreed to meet with us and then said he would marry us.
Doug had a dear friend that has the love of photography and he agreed to take our pictures the day of and to give us all of what he took - YEAH! I am a picture nut and loved having ALL of the images, not just what we had money to buy.
We had decided that since we really wanted it to be a small wedding and did not want to pick and choose who we would invite to the wedding that it would be a family only wedding and that we would hold an open house later on.
So now who to stand with us and be our witnesses.... Now this ended up being the most sentimental part of the planning... I talked this over with Doug and he agreed. So our Mom's stood with us. We decided that we wanted them to do this, since they have both been there for us and we wanted their support within ouur future together! I think that they were both very honored to stand with us.
My Mom & Dad decided that they wanted to help a little, so they bought my dress and had a luncheon for us all after the ceremony.
So the day started out gloomy, overcast and a tad bit rainy, but that did not stop us...to be continued
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
09-2002 / 10-2002 - The 6 week in between details
Doug had proposed literally right after we met, we had both been married before and felt that a long engagement, not for us.... We were both adults, did not want to drag things out, did not want a "BIG" wedding, did not want to be apart for the upcoming holiday's, so a date was set between us as 10/12/2002.... Yes, just SIX short weeks from the day we first met online.
Of course when he proposed he did not do the formal thing, it was a spur of the moment question that came from the heart and he meant it when he asked. So there was no ring, no surprise setting that was planned out like those who date and the next natural step is marriage, just a question from the heart to spend the rest of our lives together.
He felt bad that I did not have a ring, so one evening a day or so later he came over after work, got down on one knee and proposed again with a beautiful heart shaped ring for me to wear. (which I still wear on and off to this day!) I loved the ring, because it was so different and unique - Like our relationship!
Now for the fun part: Telling our families... You know a joyous event like marriage is supposed to be fun and exciting and tears of joy to tell your family! Well, not so for us, or at least in the beginning. Parents only want the best for their children and with us both being married before and our folks seeing what we had gone through there, did not want to see us hurt again. Everyone one was, wait, there is no rush to get married (& That was true, we were only getting married because we wanted to), make sure you two want to be together... Set the date for next year and just keep dating. Doug & I were very adamant about getting married and starting our lives together now, not in 2003. If we loved each other now, we would next year as well.
Our family's found that they were going to have to accept these two bull headed adult children and let them do what they wanted and to support them and be a part of the big event.
More later....
Of course when he proposed he did not do the formal thing, it was a spur of the moment question that came from the heart and he meant it when he asked. So there was no ring, no surprise setting that was planned out like those who date and the next natural step is marriage, just a question from the heart to spend the rest of our lives together.
He felt bad that I did not have a ring, so one evening a day or so later he came over after work, got down on one knee and proposed again with a beautiful heart shaped ring for me to wear. (which I still wear on and off to this day!) I loved the ring, because it was so different and unique - Like our relationship!
Now for the fun part: Telling our families... You know a joyous event like marriage is supposed to be fun and exciting and tears of joy to tell your family! Well, not so for us, or at least in the beginning. Parents only want the best for their children and with us both being married before and our folks seeing what we had gone through there, did not want to see us hurt again. Everyone one was, wait, there is no rush to get married (& That was true, we were only getting married because we wanted to), make sure you two want to be together... Set the date for next year and just keep dating. Doug & I were very adamant about getting married and starting our lives together now, not in 2003. If we loved each other now, we would next year as well.
Our family's found that they were going to have to accept these two bull headed adult children and let them do what they wanted and to support them and be a part of the big event.
More later....
09 01 2002 - Meeting the Man of my Dreams
09-01-2002 or close enough, it was Labor Day weekend 2002....
I had met my first husband while still in High School and we were married the year after I graduated and then divorced when I was 30. I never was one that liked going to the bars much even when I was young and married and now that I was single, the bars still did not sound very fun for me. Yes I went to a few for drinks with firends to just get out, but not with the thought in mind to meet and hook up with someone. So I spent a lot of time on my computer and met guys through AOL and their profiles that were out there... Or shall I say, most of them contacted me and we would "IM", then talk a bit on the phone and if that went well, I would agree to meet them. Now I only did this a handful of times and my best friend always knew all the details of the date... That was my safety net.
So I started talking online to dougsawineguy@aol.com, aka Doug, over Labor Day weekend of 2002. We decided to meet up at a place called The Big Chill. This was close to my house and a very public place. Being it was a weekend night and they had a bar, I felt that all would be fine. So we got together for some drinks and talked in person for quite a while. With it getting late, we called it a night (or at least we thought so) and parted. I liked this Doug and really connected with him, not only online, on the phone, but in person as well.
So after we parted ways and got home, we were back online and were chatting away into the wee hours... Doug tells me later that he knew this was meant to be and was not going to let me get away.
During the wee hours of the night talking, Doug wanted to take me on a "date". So a few days later he picked me up from the house and took me to The Melting Pot on The Plaza. What an impression he made on this first date. I felt like a kid, not a divorced mother of two.... He was wonderful...
Within the next couple of weeks we were with eachother, on the phone or e-mailing & IM'ng all of the time and a week or maybe even two after we met - he proposed.....Well you know the results, but how did this play out? to be continued....
I had met my first husband while still in High School and we were married the year after I graduated and then divorced when I was 30. I never was one that liked going to the bars much even when I was young and married and now that I was single, the bars still did not sound very fun for me. Yes I went to a few for drinks with firends to just get out, but not with the thought in mind to meet and hook up with someone. So I spent a lot of time on my computer and met guys through AOL and their profiles that were out there... Or shall I say, most of them contacted me and we would "IM", then talk a bit on the phone and if that went well, I would agree to meet them. Now I only did this a handful of times and my best friend always knew all the details of the date... That was my safety net.
So I started talking online to dougsawineguy@aol.com, aka Doug, over Labor Day weekend of 2002. We decided to meet up at a place called The Big Chill. This was close to my house and a very public place. Being it was a weekend night and they had a bar, I felt that all would be fine. So we got together for some drinks and talked in person for quite a while. With it getting late, we called it a night (or at least we thought so) and parted. I liked this Doug and really connected with him, not only online, on the phone, but in person as well.
So after we parted ways and got home, we were back online and were chatting away into the wee hours... Doug tells me later that he knew this was meant to be and was not going to let me get away.
During the wee hours of the night talking, Doug wanted to take me on a "date". So a few days later he picked me up from the house and took me to The Melting Pot on The Plaza. What an impression he made on this first date. I felt like a kid, not a divorced mother of two.... He was wonderful...
Within the next couple of weeks we were with eachother, on the phone or e-mailing & IM'ng all of the time and a week or maybe even two after we met - he proposed.....Well you know the results, but how did this play out? to be continued....
Why 10 21 1969???
Because this blog is about me and that is the date that it all started....
OK - So now a more indepth answer to why - Last night in playing around and reading other's blog's from links on friends, friends, friends blogs, I read one that was just priceless to me. No, I had no clue who I was reading about, I have never met this person before in my life. But after reading about her courtship with her husband and what it took to have their children, I thought I want to write about me and if others are interested, then they can read and if not, at least I have documented something for my children. So as you can imagine I though it was neat to read and it got me thinking....
Yes, my family knows me, but do they know what I was thinking at a certain point in my life or what was going on? Probably not.... So I have decided to use this blog to "Journal" about me....
As things come up in my memory, I plan on sharing them here. Now if you want to see any pictures - you will need to visit one of my other blogs, as that is where you will find them.
Casey
OK - So now a more indepth answer to why - Last night in playing around and reading other's blog's from links on friends, friends, friends blogs, I read one that was just priceless to me. No, I had no clue who I was reading about, I have never met this person before in my life. But after reading about her courtship with her husband and what it took to have their children, I thought I want to write about me and if others are interested, then they can read and if not, at least I have documented something for my children. So as you can imagine I though it was neat to read and it got me thinking....
Yes, my family knows me, but do they know what I was thinking at a certain point in my life or what was going on? Probably not.... So I have decided to use this blog to "Journal" about me....
As things come up in my memory, I plan on sharing them here. Now if you want to see any pictures - you will need to visit one of my other blogs, as that is where you will find them.
Casey
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